Updated: Dec 1, 2020
Autumn is calling you to dive deep into your feminine nature, to evoke the gifts of your femininity on a deeper level - the level that transmutes darkness, pain and fear, the level that heals what has to be healed, and lets go of what has to be let go of. No other seasons is as deeply connected to the feminine nature and shows us so beautifully the depth of what it means to truly live in tune with our cyclical nature. As challenging as autumn might be, it holds so much deep medicine. Dive in.
Autumn is the time of transformation, of letting go, death and darkness. It is a season where the cycles of life become so obvious to the bare eye: The trees dressing in their most exquisite, golden-glimmering gowns - until it is ready to let it all go. To die. In order to be reborn. The days are getting shorter, our days are filled with more darkness. We experience Samhain - also known as Halloween (read an article by my dear friend Inés on the true meaning of Samhain) - where the veil becomes thin between the living and the death. From the outward focus in summer, we are drawn inwards. There is more magick, more mysticism than in the weeks and month before.
Autumn and its magick are the embodiment of deep, deep feminine nature.
If we look at autumn and it's characteristics, we get a deeper understanding of the feminine and its medicine. I believe there is no other season which has the potency to awaken a new depth of the feminine nature within women, than autumn.
Autumn showcases beautifully how we are in constant change, the ebb and flows of life. If we look deeper, we can see how autumn illustrates a woman's cyclical nature. You as a woman are deeply connected to all things cycle: The seasons, the moon cycle, the menstrual cycle as well as your very personal cycle of emotions, energy and interests, and all of the four weave in together. On of the most beautiful gifts of the feminine is the ability to flow, to surrender and let herself be taken by all that is. The first step is usually to just accept and embrace: Yes, I am a cyclical being, and my cycle is as long as a moon cycle. For men this is totally different: The masculine flows in a 24hour cycle with the sun. But you, the feminine, you have a longer pathway. Autumn encourages you to embrace your cyclical, rhytmical nature, the fact that what might be good for you one day, doesnt feel nourishing the other. And that you have the authority to change, asses and adjust moment to moment, day by day, season to season.
The reason why so many struggle in autumn is because autumn is asking you to let go of control (shadow feminine aspect), truly tune into your cyclical nature and flow with it. It is asking you to connect to your inner wild woman, the one who is standing so deeply in her own truth that she knows when it's time to let go.
The veil is thin
A big part of embracing your and life's cyclical nature is befriending death and endings. And autumn brings a lot of death with her. Days get shorter, nights get darker. The underworld is more present than ever. On 31 October Samhain is celebrated (read more on my friend Inés blog here), which is also Dia de los muertos - the day when the worlds between the living and the death collide, we are as close to each other as no other day in the year. Nature shows us how it looks like to let go, to shed, to transform. And the feminine is actually very attuned to the Life/Death/Life cycle. She knows that in order for new seeds to grow, death needs to happen. This innate knowing comes from her deep connection to nature.
by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Tuning deeper into your feminine nature and your connection to the Life/Death/Life cycle is one of the most profound initiations a woman can go through. Because usually at the other side of the spectrum is a woman who tends to over-think, control, manipulate and hold on to things not meant for her for far to long. Everytime you hold on to something not ment for you, try so hard to make something work, you loose a little piece of your wild feminine soul. This is nothing to be ashamed of, I did this many times in my life. But it brought me here to this deep understanding of my feminine essence, which surrenders deeply. Surrendering deeply also means trusting deeply. It is trusting that maybe a relationship has to end right here and right now, so it can be reborn in new ways when the time is right. How can you lean more into trust, surrender and love - because ultimately, love doesn't want anything for you that is not of the highest truth?
Autumn asks you to dive into a deeper understanding of your feminine psyche and nature, far away from the sweet, sexy & soft stereotype of the feminine. The wild woman archetype is the passageway.
Wild Woman. The feminine archetype. The words wild and woman, they awaken something within every women. Two words every woman intuitively, instinctively understands. It's a kind of remembering, an old, long lost memory. Yet so ever present. Because the wild woman resides within all of us, every woman, every culture, every land. She is within me as much as she is within you. And she asks you to finally come home, as she is the embodiment of the deep female psyche.
Connecting to the Wild Woman archetype
As Clarissa Pinkola Estés wrote: "So what compromises the Wild Woman? From the viewpoint of archetypal psychology as well as in ancient traditions, she is the female soul. Yet she is more, she is the source of the feminine. She is all that is of instinct, of the worlds both seen and hidden - she is the basis." She is that woman who knows who she is, owns who she is and stands in her full truth and power. She is the woman that is feared by patriarchy, because she is connected as fuck: To her sensual body, her intuitive instinct, her untamed heart and her throat. She doesn't by into the new age self-development trap of not being enough, she knows she is, with all her light and darkness. She is deeply connected to nature, the cycles, life/death/life. She is where all the medicine of autumn comes together and becomes tangible.
If you feel trapped, caged and tamed - aka depressed, low in energy, depleted, worn out, dry and rigid - it is time to tune into your wild woman energies. Autumn is the time to do so. Get out in nature and connect to the soil beneath your feet. Become very quit so you can hear the whispers of the trees, birds and foxes. Dance wildly. Roar. Embrace your rage. Scream. Dive into a creative activity. Write poems. Read poems. Embrace all things beauty, creativity, sensuality and nature.
Autumn is calling you to dive deeper into your feminine nature.
To wild out.
To let the dead leaves drop.
To let go, let die.
And to incubate new life.
>> If you want to dive deeper into the teachings of the Autumn Woman, you can buy the "Autumn Moon Woman", an online workshop to transition into the season of fall by activating your inner wild woman. Expect a two hour workshop and further resources.