The first days of a year are a contagious mix of utter excitement and deep fear: I want this so bad, wow, this time I’m going to make it happen, what if I don’t make it happen, I have no clue how to get there, I will never get there, I’m not worthy, what will others think.
The first days of the year are also somewhat inspiring, and yet to me connected with so much negative energy of lack, pushing, grasping, not being there yet.
I inspire you to take your time. Not following some purely masculine and patriarchal conditioning of getting shit done as soon as possible. Instead, tap into the feminine art of creating a ritual for yourself to truly reset for the new.
Because, lets be honest: To create the life you desire, to step into this version of yourself who can have it – and please don’t fool yourself, this version is already here – you have to clear out the old.
There is no new reality, without reflecting upon the past, healing, releasing, forgiving and consciously letting go.
Creating the new takes effort. Our old habits, fears, thoughts, they are what we are used to. Even if they didn’t bring what we wanted, we are so accustomed to them, that we choose them over and over again.
It’s easy to fall back into your old beliefs and habits, because they are your comfort zone. You already know what the outcome is.
So, releasing is as important as creating the new, if not more important. The soil needs to be fertile for new roots to grow.
Here I'm sharing with you a beautiful ritual - you can also do only certain parts of it - for a deep reset of the old. Take your time with it!
Ritual to close, reset and renew ☾
1 - Reflect upon the past
☽ Visualization of 2019
Take a moment for yourself, close your eyes, and visualize the past year: What happened? What moments stuck in your memory? What was amazing? What didn’t make you feel good? Allow yourself to step into the role of an observer.
You can access a guided visualization in my Facebook Group, marked with “Day 1”
☽ Journal on the past year Take out your journal and write down what came up during the visualisation. More prompts:
What were my highlights of 2019?
What did make me feel really good?
What were experiences I didn't like?
What lessons did I learn in 2019?
Is there something that still needs forgiveness, closure or healing?
2 - Tap into gratitude & honor what is
There is nothing more important than seeing what is there. In gratitude we expand, we source, we become a magnet to attract more of what we desire. Another important point: At the end of the year, we tend to be dissapointed in having not reached where we want to be yet. When in fact, we have achieved so much. And I'm not talking about achievements society or our parents expect from us, but all the little moments where we made that call, spoke up, said no.
What are you proud of? Write out sentences starting with: (Insert your first name), I am proud of you for...
What are you grateful for?
What worked out really well?
Whom can you maybe write a sweet letter of gratitude?
☽ Bonus: Tap on feeling proud of what you've done with Gala Darling
3 - Bring peace to your learnings
☽ Journal out these questions
What didnt go well this year?
Where did I get stuck in old limiting beliefs, habits and patterns?
Is there a situation which still needs clarification and closure?
What did I want to learn through this experience?
Having made these experiences, what will I do different?
☽ Healing meditation
To truly clear the energy, I invite you to do my healing meditation.
☽ Practice forgiveness
To practice forgiveness, you can write a letter to the person - you never need to send it. Sometimes the person we need to forgive the most, is ourselves.
4 - Release the old
Write down on a piece of paper what you are totally ready to let go of. Write it all out, fold the paper, and take a moment to hold old the old between your palms, closing your eyes, tuning into the learnings and repeating this prayer: "I now fully accept and make peace with all there is and ever was. I accept every of those situations. I bring peace, forgiveness and healing to it. I am grateful for the experience. I no longer need to hold on to this. I now let this go." - If you are the same like me: burn it! But please in a safe space :)
☽ De-clutter your home, your apartment, your electronic devices - everything. Cleanse your energy and surroundings with sage, palo santo or whatever floats your boat
☽ Give yourself time. Give yourself space.
Rest, sleep, take salt baths, take a walk in nature, rest, sleep, repeat.
5 - Create a manifesto for the new
This is what usually gets totally forgotten: We release, release, release - and then what? As I said, our old ways of moving through life are sooo easy for us. It's the simplest thing to get back to it. We might have cleared up our subconscious - but what's gonna happen with our daily habits, thoughts, words, everrrrythang?
Got me? Good.
So, you take another piece of paper - can be your journal - and start writing down a Manifesto for this new year & decade. Here, for once, you are also allowed to write down what you're done with doing. Ask yourself: What behaviour of myself will I no longer tolerate? And what do I want to create in this new space? Allow space, maybe you don't really know what to do with this new big "empty room". That's okay. Let it stay empty for a while - I believe this is the hardest for us humans. But get clear about what is no longer allowed in this field.
Some of my words were:
I am giving up fighting for things to work out.
I am giving up fighting for someone's love and appreciation.
I am giving up the habit of "doing the right" thing, to get what I want.
I am done with chasing in any area of my life.
I am done with feeding fear, doubt and worries.
My love, I hope those inspirations helped you to really clean the slate for a fantastic, orgasmic and abundant new year & decade. It's all in you, babygirl.
Let me know in the comments how this helped, and if you need further guidance in this time, check out my free training Unleash your Radiance (you can still watch the videos & do the prompts later) in my Facebookgroup or join Rising Goddess - the coaching program accessible to any woman ready to make 2020 HER year!